Embrace The New You
Reading is a great form of self-care. Photo courtesy of Nappy.
Each day Black Women go to war. On all fronts! We are fighting for our families, love, at work and in our communities. Most of us are exhausted, emotionally spent, and hurting. We are constantly on the move. Rest is not a word in our vocabulary. We do not know how to rest because we are required/expected and trained to get it done.
We suffer from physical aches and pains, and we are always tired. We look at fake Instagram and TikTok stories where everyone is living their best lives. They are constantly on vacation, earning six figures with multiple children who always looks well dressed and behaved. They get all the likes, follows, and comments. We are stuck at home with a job we hate and a house full of children or one that is empty and void.
Before we were born society’s perspective of ourselves was already established in our communities. We were already conditioned to believe that we aren’t valuable or beautiful. They say that we are too aggressive, or too dark. We are not considered fully human or even desirable. It is time to discredit those lies and discover and embrace the new you.
Pursuing You
A Strong Black woman is a cultural icon. When Black women cling to that image rather than acknowledge and address the stress and trauma so many of us have experienced or are experiencing; we usually experience mental, emotional, and physical issues that decrease our quality of life and life span.
An estimated eight out of 10 Black women have experienced some form of trauma. Whether it is intergenerational trauma, childhood trauma, abusive relationships, or lived trauma that has affected their perceptions, mindsets, and behaviors. Trauma has many faces and affects many people across all walks of life.
Rather than maintaining the cultural expectation of being strong, which can lead to anxiety, depression, hypertension, diabetes, heart disease, and much more. It is important that we understand how our life experiences and those of others have impacted and influenced who we are.
“The illiterate of the 21st century will not be those who cannot read and write, but those who cannot learn, unlearn and relearn.”
Good News (Selfcare Love Routine)
It is critical that as Black Women we take the time to look at and reflect on the big picture of our lives. Not just bits and pieces but the whole picture of our professional and personal lives, We need to discover who we are emotionally, mentally, spiritually, socially, and culturally. Knowing and understanding who we are better equip us to create the changes in our lives that we desire.
Emotionally working on our emotions and how we express our feelings.
Mentally caring for our psychological health and our mind care.
Spiritually nurturing our spirits and incorporating our religious practices.
Socially learn to develop and nurture positive connections and relationships.
Culturally learn and understand what makes our people unique. Our customs, beliefs, and history.
We must look for tools and resources that are available to help us heal and become whole. Adopting or creating positive holistic practices and tweaking them to fit our needs in order to become and remain healthy. It is important that we take charge of our own healing and expand our knowledge.
Loving Yourself
Self-love or self-care is not about another beauty regime. It is about Becoming whole. Becoming whole is an inside job it is about Becoming one with your Authentic self! It is about Becoming the Woman you were created to be. It is about nurturing, protecting, preserving, and celebrating your growth, It requires you radically grasping your space and pushing for your growth. It requires you to walk in your power and authority.
“Getting to know and taking care of yourself is the biggest act of self-love.”
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